you don't fault a child for the sins of the parent.
you can, however, fault the parent for the sins of the child.

not just once,
not just twice,
not just thrice,
not just four times,
not just five times,
countless times,
children from the neighbors' place
have entered our properties,
playing dangerously
not just in my parents' yard
but also in my balcony ->  on the third floor!
(there are other things these youngsters have done.
i can talk about them verbally
but i'm not gonna immortalize them in a blog.)

these (two separate) properties have gates.
they open the gates!

i used to walk over to the guardian's own gate
(the grandmother of one of the children)
and tell her through the window
to stop the kids from opening our gates.

you know what she'd do?

she'd just look at me,
say nothing,
then continue watching TV.

invariably that's what happens.

she never once went out to check the kids.
she never once went out to call them.
she never once sent out anyone to call them.
she'd just stay put on her chair and go on watching TV.

pretty much like the rest of her household
who do not even bother to pick up their dog
and even have the gall to just watch
as it barks on and on and on, unleashed,
in the neighbor's property.

you have to yell at them
to get them to get their pet.
(a regular tone won't do;
there'd be no action.)

what sort of caretakers are these?
they impose
not just their pets
but even persons they should be looking after
on others!

passing on responsibility for your animals
is low enough.
you really have to dig deeper
and pass on your responsibility for a human???
ugh!  rock bottom.


there are no-brainers
and there are those
that require some brain power.

it does not take much to see a dog barking.

it takes a bit more to notice
that the dog is outside its owner's property.

it takes some form of memory
to know that this is already the fourth dog
seven years running
spending time in the neighbor's property.

it takes more brain power
to recognize a pattern in
- your trash being in the neighbor's property
- your stuff being in the neighbor's property
- your pets being in the neighbor's property
- your guests being in the neighbor's property
- your children being in the neighbor's property

you are negligent.
you are irresponsible.
you are inconsiderate.
you are selfish.
you are brazen.
you are shameless.

even skinner's rats were able to recognize patterns.
you've been unable to for years.
are you a creature inferior to a rat???

in four years students graduate from college.
they would have learned a LOT in that span of time.
eight years and your thoughts still haven't progressed much.
(yes, it's just the dogs that's seven;
others were happening longer.)
if this were a school,
you would have been kicked out long ago.

dread not

it's friday.
and today it's not just #FlashbackFriday
but Friday the 13th as well.

you live in the present,
build for the future
and remember the past.

yeah, do not just forget the last.
there are lessons to be learned from the past after all.

some, however, have made a past so horrific,
time could not fade its severity,
they themselves are spooked by it.
they go into panic / defensive mode
the moment it is brought up.

you cannot erase the past.
it's part of who you are.

don't suppress it as if it didn't happen.

don't twist it
to make it appear like something else.
what's done is done.
you cannot change it anymore.

despair not though.
an ugly past does not define you
unless you continue living it.
just do things right henceforth.

friendly ghost

today is thursday, #ThrowbackThursday;
tomorrow, #FlashbackFriday 😊

seven days in a week
and there are two
in which to specially look back to the past.

those who make a good present
also make a past they'd like to to remember.
those who do otherwise
make something they'd rather forget.

"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it."

those who forget the past
will have no idea
what actions they're repeating
and what patterns they're weaving.

some things become apparent only through the lens of time.
you will not know certain things,
for example, as simple as how long something has been going on,
if all you consider is the here and now.
you will not realize certain things
if you cannot think beyond a current event.

you can harp on all you want about the past being past
but if you don't let go of bad behavior
you should not expect others to forget it.

you forget things that are over,
not the ones that haven't stopped.

it's not really past
if you're still living it.

if you continue with the same behavior,
that is not bygone;
it is ongoing.

you don't bury the living,
you bury the dead.

if you want to bury your past,
change your ways.

in so doing,
you can move on to a past
you will not be ashamed to remember.

everything counts

so the neighbor
justifies throwing their trash in our sack
by saying
my (87-year-old) dad
told her
(7-year-old) granddaughter
that they could throw their trash
in our sacks.


i ask my dad
and he says
he never said such a thing
adding he buys those sacks
(in which we put our trash).

i believe him
not because he's my dad
but because his response
is sensible.

there are adults in that house.
why would he choose to relay such a message, if ever,
to a young girl?
and yeah, why would he send such a message at all?

if i were to make sense of things,
what i would be thinking
is that my dad probably saw
the children playing in the alley
and told the granddaughter
to throw their litter
in our trash.

that's it.
end of story.
that would be
what would come to MY mind.

now the tricky part.

i wonder what would come to a young girl's mind.
that my dad is giving them
an open-ended blanket invitation
to throw their trash
in our sacks?
would that be how young girls think?
is that how this young girl thinks?

how would she have announced it to her grandmother, if ever?
seriously?  gleefully?  what?

and if one were the grandmother
hearing something like that
from her granddaughter,
what would come to her mind?
that henceforth they could throw
THEIR household trash
in OUR sacks?

how would she have taken it, if ever?
excitedly?  no skepticism whatsoever?  what?

would she not even feel
that there is something off?
would she not even wonder about the absurdity of the situation?

"i am responsible for what i say.
i am not responsible for what you understand."

who misinterpreted things, if ever?
the grandmother?
the granddaughter?

i'm inclined toward track record
but could not discount the saying,
"the apple does not fall far from the tree."

it would be interesting to know
what actually transpired.

meanwhile, this song is playing in my head:

♩ ♪  the grabbing hands
grab all they can  ♫ ♬