i received an unexpected call last night. actually, the call itself was not unexpected. the caller is someone i talk to on a regular basis, sometimes daily, no less than weekly.
it was her story that was unexpected. someone so rudely livid at her, at one time even physically hostile to her, suddenly called up to smoke the peace pipe. whoa! isn't that good? : )
now the caller was asking me what she should do. i said up to her, whatever she feels like doing.
she said she wants advice. ooops. not sure i'm a good resource. anyway, i told her if the other party asked for forgiveness then forgive. as to being chummy, depends on how she feels at the moment. forgiveness and closeness do not necessarily have to come together right away. the latter could come later, even not at all.
years back, i came across my mom's Science of the Mind notes. one line struck me, and has stayed with me eversince: Forgiveness does not mean you have to continue having that person in your life.
i'd say true. you forgive. but make sure you do not forget the lesson.
when people who have hurt you or have been mean to you ask for forgiveness, then by all means forgive. but then they should not take it against you when things don't go back to how they were before. actions have consequences. not everything that has been broken can be restored to its original state. some things could change. this does not mean you failed to forgive or remain angry. it could simply mean you've learned to be cautious. that is understandable...
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